Day1: Resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all.
Day 2: In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of Kindness.
Day 3: As well as restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something today that says "I was thinking of you today”.
Day 4: Contact your spouse during the day today, have no agenda other than to see how they are doing and if there is anything you can do for them.
Day 5: Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him / her to be uncomfortable /irritated with you. You must do this without attacking them or justifying your behavior.
Day 6: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. List areas you need to add margin to your schedule. List wrong motivations you need to release from your life.
Day 7: Get 2 sheets of paper, on 1 write down all the positive things about your spouse, on the other all the negative things. Put these sheets away in a secret place for another day. At some point during the day thank your spouse for one of the positive things.
Day 8: Become your spouses biggest fan & reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help
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you set your heart on your spouse & focus on their achievements, take yesterdays list of negative attributes & discreetly burn it. Share with your spouse how you recently enjoyed success
Day9: Think of a specific way you would like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Day 10: Do something out of the ordinary today—something that proves to them your love is based on choice. Wash his/her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his/her favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Show the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Day 11: What need does your spouse have that you could meet today ? Run and errand, give a back rub, housework ? Choose a gesture that says “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.
Day 12: Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.
Day 13: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Day 14: Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he /she would love to do or a project they would really like to work on. Just be together.
Day 21: Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your bible. Try reading a chapter a day , or reading a chapter in the gospels. As you do immerse yourself in the love promises God has for you. This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.
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Day 22: Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these “I love you, I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return.”
Day 23: Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
Day 24: End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing hidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to in a back bedroom. It must be destroyed today ! And replaced with the sure promises of God, and a heart filled with His perfect love.
Day 25: Whatever you have not forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us” each day, we must ask Him to help us, “forgive others”. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison. Say from your heart “I forgive you.”
Day 26: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, humble yourself and admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness. No matter how they respond Cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it as counsel.
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Day 27: Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectation. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you are sorry for being so hard on them. Promise them you will seek to understand, assure them of your love.
Day 28: Which is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now ? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders, by an act of sacrifice on your part ? Whether the need is big or small purpose to meet that need.
Day 29: Before you see your spouse today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Say “I love you” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer , thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—the way He loves both of you.
Day 30: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, look on today as a fresh opportunity to pry about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. If appropriate discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.
Day 31: Is there a leaving issue, you have not been brave enough to conquer yet ? Confess it to your spouse, resolve to make it right. The unity in your marriage is dependant on it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and ask God to make your marriage top priority.
Day 32: If at all possible try to initiate sex with your spouse today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you about what they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you, as well as a path to greater intimacy.
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Day 33: Recognize that you spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past admit this and ask them to forgive you.
Day 34: Find a specific recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
Day 35: Find a marriage mentor, someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
Day 36: Commit to reading the Bible everyday. Find a devotional book that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.
Day 37: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Discuss the best time to do this. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses resolve to spend this time daily in prayer yourself.
Day 38: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
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Day 39: Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.
Day 40: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your vows before a minister with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and with the high honor of being one with your mate.
Day 2: In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of Kindness.
Day 3: As well as restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something today that says "I was thinking of you today”.
Day 4: Contact your spouse during the day today, have no agenda other than to see how they are doing and if there is anything you can do for them.
Day 5: Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him / her to be uncomfortable /irritated with you. You must do this without attacking them or justifying your behavior.
Day 6: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. List areas you need to add margin to your schedule. List wrong motivations you need to release from your life.
Day 7: Get 2 sheets of paper, on 1 write down all the positive things about your spouse, on the other all the negative things. Put these sheets away in a secret place for another day. At some point during the day thank your spouse for one of the positive things.
Day 8: Become your spouses biggest fan & reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help
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you set your heart on your spouse & focus on their achievements, take yesterdays list of negative attributes & discreetly burn it. Share with your spouse how you recently enjoyed success
Day9: Think of a specific way you would like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Day 10: Do something out of the ordinary today—something that proves to them your love is based on choice. Wash his/her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his/her favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Show the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Day 11: What need does your spouse have that you could meet today ? Run and errand, give a back rub, housework ? Choose a gesture that says “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.
Day 12: Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.
Day 13: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Day 14: Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he /she would love to do or a project they would really like to work on. Just be together.
Day 21: Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your bible. Try reading a chapter a day , or reading a chapter in the gospels. As you do immerse yourself in the love promises God has for you. This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.
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Day 22: Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these “I love you, I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return.”
Day 23: Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
Day 24: End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing hidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to in a back bedroom. It must be destroyed today ! And replaced with the sure promises of God, and a heart filled with His perfect love.
Day 25: Whatever you have not forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us” each day, we must ask Him to help us, “forgive others”. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison. Say from your heart “I forgive you.”
Day 26: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, humble yourself and admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness. No matter how they respond Cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it as counsel.
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Day 27: Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectation. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you are sorry for being so hard on them. Promise them you will seek to understand, assure them of your love.
Day 28: Which is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now ? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders, by an act of sacrifice on your part ? Whether the need is big or small purpose to meet that need.
Day 29: Before you see your spouse today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Say “I love you” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer , thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—the way He loves both of you.
Day 30: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, look on today as a fresh opportunity to pry about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. If appropriate discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.
Day 31: Is there a leaving issue, you have not been brave enough to conquer yet ? Confess it to your spouse, resolve to make it right. The unity in your marriage is dependant on it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and ask God to make your marriage top priority.
Day 32: If at all possible try to initiate sex with your spouse today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you about what they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you, as well as a path to greater intimacy.
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Day 33: Recognize that you spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past admit this and ask them to forgive you.
Day 34: Find a specific recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
Day 35: Find a marriage mentor, someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
Day 36: Commit to reading the Bible everyday. Find a devotional book that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.
Day 37: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Discuss the best time to do this. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses resolve to spend this time daily in prayer yourself.
Day 38: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
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Day 39: Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.
Day 40: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your vows before a minister with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and with the high honor of being one with your mate.
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